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Meet gottaloveit, she’s a Giant Squid!

Screen Shot 2013-12-02 at 3.47.16 PMWhat is the single best piece of advice you’d give to everyone?

Every single thing that happens happens for the best. Everything. Sometimes it’s difficult or impossible to the good, but it’s true.

When did you make the biggest difference?

I was my elderly Mom’s caregiver for the 5 years prior to her death at 95. We shared an amazing 5 years; years I wouldn’t change for anything. I’m left with wonderful memories and many loving moments with Mom.

Who had the most influence on your life?

My parents have alway been my role models throughout life. They had a 65 year love affair and, although I found love late in life, I have a very similar relationship with my love, John.

What was your greatest moment?

Interestingly, I think my greatest moment (or perhaps, one of them) was being with my mom as she took her last breath. It’s certainly a moment I will never forget. She was peaceful, she was surrounded by those who loved her, and then she was gone.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

Ha ha. I suppose the correct answer is ‘a writer’ but, nah. I am happy being me right now so, I suppose the correct answer for me is, well, ‘me.’

What did you admire most about your mother/father/parents?

See above. They were born in 1916 and 1917 and saw many horrors and many triumphs over their long lives. They put family above all else and gave me the morals that I follow to this day. I’m forever grateful to have been my parents’ daughter.

What advice would you give to your teenage self?

Stay the course.

Share something you learned at your day job that applies to life in general.

I no longer work, giving up my 40 hour/week job to care for Mom. But, I was a data manager for clinical trials. Learning to cooperate with and enhance the lives of others sure makes the ride easier.

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?


What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

I would love to see population control go worldwide. Some people just shouldn’t breed…

Favorite Lens

When death looms – the signs and symptoms of final moments on earth

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Bonnie Diczhazy (bdkz) is Editor of the SquidooHQ Blog and Head of Community here at

  • Ruthi aka abitosunshine

    Gotta love her for sure! Your compassion as your mom’s caregiver was awesome and shows what a wonderful person you are and I am honored to have met you through Squidoo. I agree with your breeder comment, ha!

    • gottaloveit

      Oh, Ruthi, you’ve always been one of my favorites. Thanks.

      • Ruthi aka abitosunshine

        That favorite feeling is mutual, m’dear!

  • tonyleather

    Very interesting and detailed introduction. I love your lenses and think you are a worthy member of the giant squid club. Welcome indeed!

  • lauryallan

    Loved the, “some people just shouldn’t breed” comment. In the UK people are so afraid to say how they really feel for fear of being politically incorrect etc. However, there are hard truths that need to be faced if we are ever going to make any progress.
    Our paths are fairly similar and I looked after my ailing father for 3 years, and nursed him back to health after cancer. Glad to hear that you are still raring to go and living life!

    • gottaloveit

      In my (slight) defense, I didn’t realize that was going to be read by everyone. I thought it was just a little quest thingee or something.

  • RenaissanceWoman2010

    What a beautiful, loving greatest moment. Isn’t that what we would all want as we take our last breath?

  • dawnraeb

    Sweet (without sappy) interview. Very nice. I’m happy to have read this. Nice to know more about you.

  • gottaloveit

    Thanks everyone! I just saw this a few minutes ago – my Queen for the day was nearly over!

  • grammieo

    Nice to meet you through these intro pages……It’s not easy to be the caregiver, but it has so many joys attached as well. So glad your experience was a good one. You were very lucky to have had great parents.

  • KateaInk

    Nice to meet you!

  • ayannavenus

    Congrats on becoming a giant squid!

  • Emmanuel_Kigen

    awesome story with great lessons

  • eiramarie_0726

    I admire you for what you have… I might not have the same family bond as you have, but hope and pray that I can make my own as great as you have now.. thank you..

  • PadmashriSriram

    Beautifully written self interview. Love it

  • knowledgetoday

    Enjoyed your comments. Much of what you said has much to do with many of our own experiences.

  • MiddleSister

    Sooo nice to see this wonderful lady featured. Lori has helped and inspired hundreds and hundreds of people through her writing about caregiving. I’m just one of them. Plus, her writing is plain fun to read. Lori rocks!

  • jmchaconne

    Population control? Who gets to decide who shouldn’t “breed” ? Every life is valuable. The list of people that have made large contributions to advancement mankind, that came from people who might be considered undesirable “breeders,” is to long to put in a short comment.

  • jmchaconne

    Most times the worst thinks that happen in your life, in the end turn out to be the best. We rarely realize it, because many of us never take the time for introspection, and retrospection.

  • Charito1962

    Hello! I must admit – I gottaloveyou! Thanks for sharing the story about your late mom. I’ve been through a similar situation when I lost my hubby to lung cancer in 2005. I was 44 then, and my son was only 9. Here’s the link to my story : Hope to meet you someday. – Ms. Charito from the Philippines

  • DebMartin

    What can I say… gottaloveyou!

  • aredey

    gottalove me

  • getmoreinfo

    Nice to meet you and I enjoyed reading about your mother, and how you were able to take care of her, your story is an inspiration to many.

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